Do you find yourself caring more about your appearance when you know you’re going to see them? If you’re making a point to wear your best clothes and use your favorite perfume or cologne when you know you’re going to see your friend, chances are pretty good that you want to arouse their attraction. You should ask yourself whether you care about those things when you hang out with other platonic friends. If not, it’s time to consider that your platonic friend isn’t so platonic.
Keeping track of how you touch, use your bodies and present yourself is an easy way to determine what you really want from a relationship and puts you one step closer to knowing if you’re more than just friends.
Once you’ve really nailed down your verbal and non-verbal communication habits, including body language, it’s time to look at the reality of what types of relationships you both have with other people. All the signs might be there, but if your platonic friend is in a serious relationship with someone else or is sleeping with a lot of people, it might not matter.
Are either of you dating someone else? Are those relationships long-term? If your platonic friend already has a non-platonic friend it might not matter how often you talk or touch. Even if a spark is there, do you want your friend to end a relationship they’ve been in for a long time? They might have feelings for you that go beyond platonic, but those feelings might not be strong enough to end their current relationship.
If you and your friend aren’t in long-term romantic relationships with other people, you should move on to the reality of your sex lives. Are you or the platonic friend sleeping with anyone or a lot of other people? If they are, all of the signs that suggest you might have a not-so-platonic relationship might just mean that one of you likes to flirt or that one of you is more of a touchy-feely person. Sex and love are two different things and you might not want to ruin your platonic friendship for a romantic relationship that might not pan out in the end.
When all the signs are there and you find yourselves getting out of-or ending-physical relationships with other people, the chances are good that you are more than just friends.
Keeping track of how you touch, use your bodies and present yourself is an easy way to determine what you really want from a relationship and puts you one step closer to knowing if you’re more than just friends.
Relationships can be complicated, even when both parties make their desires and interests known. But in less straight-forward circumstances-such as when platonic friends develop romantic feelings for one another-it isn’t easy to determine what you might be feeling-let alone what your friend might be thinking! By keeping an eye out for a few key signals, you’ll have a better idea if your supposedly platonic friend is interested in being more than just friends.
Pay attention to how and when you communicate, what you’re both doing with your bodies and what (if any) romantic relationships you might have with other people and you’ll be that much closer to understanding what you both want from each other.
If you still aren’t sure, consider a quick kiss. The truth may lie in what happens when your lips connect!