Hopefully you will find a comfort in sexuality through viewing porn on such sites as xtube.com, redtube.com and rawtube.com (? this site limits your views) allowing you to find and understand what arouses you and what doesn’t. Friends (female friends) have shared their desire to want to try such as double penetration or double-team dick sucking, act mostly likely seen in porn. The idea of knowing what you want and desire beyond your own imagination may make communication with your partner a bit more simplistic, you’ll have a better idea of what you may be interested in, what you won’t do or even what your willing to attempt and try along with a visual aid if it difficult to explain or communicate. You can play the game yes, no, maybe with a bit more certainty when you know what the acts are having previously viewed them. The reason I really brought this up isn’t just what we can get out of porn other than a tweak in our sexual arousal but a few woman have questioned the aspect of viewing porn in general.
First thing, Porn can be used in lieu of foreplay I wouldn’t suggest it often, but it works, it has an almost immediate affect, wither by visual or audio stimulation. Some viewers need to see the action, put themselves in the place of the actors, (i.e. POV point of view), others listen want to hear the moans, screams and vocals of the actions taking place, allows them to visualize for themselves. Others need both, whatever the desire it cuts down on the time it takes to manipulate the body into a state of desire enabling a ‘quickie’ or for some men prep time.
Secondly some people find watching porn with their partner off setting especially if they themselves are not porn watchers. For those people, know porn watching can be a normal attribute to your partner’s sex life; concern for you should come from their habits not their pleasure in watching. (Hint. to knowing if your partner watches porn, if he says spit on it, he watches that shit often). If arousal only comes from porn or to maintain an erection they must watch throughout your activities you may want to address the issue (this is the part were building a solid line of communication helps). Talking before being thrown into the darkroom is best. Finding out what they like watching and what you finding intriguing may aide in your being able to incorporate porn into your sex life. If your really turned off and don’t like it at all see how you feel about audio because maybe allowing them to watch while your not in view will give you an acceptable compromise.
If all else fails make your own, see how you feel about that idea, maybe you and your partner can balance the idea of watching porn, by making your own and watching that (though with homemade creations you run the risk of public publishing). For those interested in more fetish or genre specific sites try brazzer.com (a member site), ghettotube.com (Ebony/ Black porn). It enables you to discover things about yourself though I wouldn’t put too much in the type of porn that arouses you, (But if the porn your drawn to awaken concerns in sexuality, I would look further into the idea). Porn may just not be for you but the intention is that you see it not a form of smut and level of skill and performance you should have with your partner but as a learning too and what to integrate excitement and new forms of pleasure into your sex life, with someone or alone.
